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It’s been pretty easy to feel depressed at the moment. The seemingly endless negative experiences have made it hard to stay buoyant and keep a positive mind. In a world with rising prices, climate change, food insecurity and conflict nobody could blame one for struggling to have a positive attitude! But, have you ever considered that positivity is in fact, a daily choice? “Write it on your heart, that every day is the best day in the year" (Ralph Waldo Emerson) Positivity has been linked to everything from better heart health, boosted immunity, improved social skills and even enabling better learning ability. Positive thinking can actually even change the structure of your brain, so in this lifestyle blog, we’re channelling positivity straight to you, with plenty of great ideas to get you thinking positive for good! What is Positive Thinking? We have all met those people who radiate positive energy - they smile and laugh easily, seem able to listen without prejudice, and get along with anyone and everyone. As they take it all in their stride, they just seem to enjoy life on an almost authentic level. So what’s their secret? To shed some light, the Oxford dictionary definition of positivity is “The practice of being or tendency to be positive or optimistic in attitude” But how do you do that? Are people just born like that? Do they come from super positive families where everyone is just… happy? Positive Thoughts vs Negative Thoughts A negative thinker is someone who just can’t seem to look on the bright side. Forever seeing the bad, they predict doom and gloom and frankly, can feel like a real energy drain. Sometimes negativity has an underlying cause such as anxiety or depression, but sometimes it’s simply become habitual. SIGNS THAT YOU’VE BECOME A NEGATIVE THINKER: Anticipating the worst Looking for problems Worrying about the present to the point where it dominates all your thoughts Repeatedly going over the past, feeling deep regret or shame and dwelling on failures and mistakes Being unable to complete a conversation without bad mouthing somebody or something Irritable and snappy with frown lines and always tense BY CONTRAST A POSITIVE THINKER WILL: Be optimistic about the future and look forward to it Be concerned about present issues but keep a balanced mindset Look for solutions to problems Learn from the past and commit to being better as a result Singing the praises of people and sharing good news Smile and laugh a lot Abraham Lincoln pretty much summed it up when he said “Folks are about as happy as they make up their mind to be” The truth is, a positive mindset, is a specific, mindful choice that we all make, each and every day. Life by it’s very nature just isn’t perfect but, isn’t that a part of the ride? We are here to experience the lot, good bad and ugly and it all has something to teach us. When faced with the same set of problems, positive and negative thinkers might handle it in a completely different way. Accepting that wherever you are - it is what it is - however painful and awful, is part of being able to let go of negativity. Positivity is the key for a positive mental attitude. I suppose the real question is; can we choose to be a person with a positive attitude, who grows to be better in spite of external influence in our lives? Positive Thinking Tips “Today is a good day to have a good day!” Remember, we can choose how we feel about everything, but that’s easier said than done! Starting small with daily positivity means micro changes that one can easily start sprinkling into our lives. Remember, it all counts towards your goal of being happier. EASY WINS TO BECOME MORE POSITIVE: Looking up quotes on positivity Reading positive thinking books Make a positivity jar to store small notes on happy memories or experiences, to enjoy at the end of each year Downloading positivity apps, for morning positivity in the form of positive thinking meditation or power positivity quotes Checking negative thoughts. For instance; instead of seeing a grey rainy day, imagine welly wearing toddlers splashing in puddles, or how the garden will get a good watering, or that it’s good we have such a plentiful water source. A positive mind has the power to transform almost anything. MEDIUM DIFFICULTY POSITIVITY CHALLENGES: If your social media news feed or choice of television programs are filled with negative stories about abuse, war, sadness or the demise of the planet, then it’s going to be difficult to feel positively about the world. Consider what you’re consuming and subjecting yourself to every day. Could you remove things that you realise make you feel negatively and subscribe to more positive influences or channels? If you have a friend or family member that always drags you down by moaning about their lives and problems then maybe it’s time to widen that gap between visits! Now think of a person you enjoy and love to spend more time with, because they always seem to lift and inspire you? Book them in the diary more often, starting from now! Try something new! Pushing yourself to experiment is good for the soul and will exhilarate you! Two Women Chatting podcast hosts Liz & Michelle can personally recommend plenty of things to try. Smile more! Simply by smiling your brain releases four chemicals – Dopamine, Oxytocin, Serotonin and Endorphins. Once you get a hit of dopamine (the happy hormone) you want more and so you smile more and so on! Pledge to be your own best friend and spend time doing exactly as you please! Write down 5 things that make you happy, 5 things you’re grateful for, 5 people you adore and finally things you’re looking forward to, however simple, like eating that chocolate bar, or reading that book, or lunch with your family, or watching a flower grow in the garden, or simply listening to a new song. Why? Writing therapy is proven to improve mental health! BIGGER CHANGES TO DIG DEEP INTO BEING MORE POSITIVE: Getting a pet is to care for another beings needs and research from the Washington State University found that petting a dog or cat can relieve stress in just 10 minutes. In fact, stroking a cat or dog actually releases Oxytocin, the happiness hormone! As most cat and dog owners will tell you, there is much to be gained by bonding and showing love to a furry friend. Practicing Yoga & Exercising really is all important when it comes to feeling better inside and out. Physically, you’ll get the hit from endorphins which give you vibrant energy and positivity. Yoga gives time to stop, reflect and reset. It also allows you to take rest. By unwinding and really looking at the contents of our thoughts, we can step away from negative emotions like anger, resentment, envy and hate and teach our minds to be quieter. In this quietness we can absorb the stillness behind the mind. The place in our subconscious that’s calm, free, still. Change your mindset and recognise when you’re basing your contentment on acquiring, desiring and wanting things. Considering our base needs are a home, food, the air we breathe and love means everything else is a bonus, not a necessity; ‘The best things in life are indeed free.’ Deciding you can go without something can be very liberating! Developing positive thinking takes time and the most important thing is to be consistent! Affirmations for positivity will become habit and this time next year you could feel like a completely different version of yourself with a positive mind - positive life! “You do not find a happy life, you make one” (Camilla Eyring Kimball) Did you enjoy this article? Why not join the Two Women Chatting mailing list for regular updates.

Do you spend your entire life trying to tick everything off on your endless to do list? Does that list ever actually get any shorter? Do you feel yourself in a state of constant stress and tension? We con ourselves into thinking that ‘when the kids go back to school or university’ or ‘when we go away on that holiday’ or ‘when we retire’, we’ll get to relax and truly invest in ourselves. If you’re the type of person who is practical and efficient, tending to ‘just get on with it’, chances are that you’ll probably have more expectations of you than others. You may even perceive yourself as needing less help and rest, because you’re so capable of taking care of everything yourself. When you believe that, more often others will assume the same and stop offering. Isn’t it ironic that the people who take on the most, and do more, are the least likely to be offered help (and the least likely to realise they need it)? Quite literally weeks can slip by without having spent a single moment stopping to check in with your own needs. This constant heightened state of fight or flight increases tension and stress levels. Stress disrupts sleep, eating habits and eventually mental and physical health. Sleep deprivation interferes with the natural healing process of the body, and ultimately our immunity, making us prone to becoming unwell. So when we do crash and burn, and we do!, How many of us then feel undeserving of rest and self care and focus on rushing back to that list of things to do before we’re ready? Enough is enough. We need a self-care revolution! Why is Self Care Important? The simple truth is, if you don’t replenish your energies, then you will not be able to continue giving so well. You can’t give from an empty cup. Replenishing your own energy gives you the tools to resume caring for others and participating in society in the way you want. Allowing yourself the time to just stop, guilt free, and be in the moment to observe what it is you need to rebalance and find contentment is critical. We must stop chasing away the chance to do that with the next ‘I must just...’ IT’S TIME TO RECOGNISE THAT YOU TRULY DESERVE TO RELAX AND UNWIND. STOP CHASING WHAT ISN’T SERVING YOU AND TAKE BETTER CARE OF YOU, GUILT-FREE. How many of us struggle to accept that our own needs are equal to those of the people we care for? Sometimes we decide ‘I’m going to do something just for me’ and good old guilt kicks in – Sneaky thoughts that we really should be working or playing with/educating the kids, nurturing our partner, calling that friend, visiting grandparents? Or even trying to improve the world? Instead of seeing self-care as selfish, we need to realise that self-care is a critical part of being able to improve things not just for ourselves, but for everyone around us. If you can be calmer, happier and more confident, then why should we feel bad about helping ourselves be that? What Defines Self-Care? Self love and self care can be anything where you have actively chosen to take out time for yourself. You can do anything at all that fuels you, which relaxes you or restores you, but you must commit the time to actually doing it – without distraction. The good news is, it doesn’t even have to take a great deal of time. Although spa weekends and yoga classes, massages and facials are amazing, you can sprinkle self care into every day even just for a few minutes at a time. For example, what about treating yourself to a sit down coffee rather than a take away and letting yourself stare out of the window at the sky? Or going to bed earlier so you can read that book for 20 minutes instead of blankly staring at the TV? Taking a candlelit bath rather than a shower, or going for a walk and being along with your thoughts for a few minutes. For the record, half checking your phone and half watching TV whilst you lounge on the sofa is most definitely not mindful self-care! (instead it just confuses the brain into wondering whether it needs to be active or not). How to Start Self Care Start small… even 10 minutes that is absolutely all for you is achievable. Don’t let anyone interfere with that time. Switch the phone off and set that time aside when you know your day is at it’s quietest. Whether it’s baking, knitting, painting, stroking the cat, picking flowers or cloud gazing in the garden, own it and feel every moment of it. Joining clubs where you’re using health such as golf or rambling through nature will not only blow the cobwebs away, it will give you the mental break you need whilst improving your health. If you’re the cook of the house, then maybe you could give yourself a week off with a bespoke supper package brought to your doorstep such as hellofresh,gousto, or the mindfulchef. Just imagine, a gourmet standard, premier made meal delivered straight to you. Heaven! Add a Sprinkle of Luxury to Your Self Care There are so many wonderful hotels that offer pamper weekends and luxury getaways but if you can’t get away for a serious dose of reviving pleasure, then learn to ask for help. Especially if you’re a doer! You don’t need to feel guilty! If you like; you can offer an exchange where you offer help someone else, whilst taking the help you need to take time out. For example, offering to visit a friend’s elderly parents or pet sitting in rotation with friends or colleagues. Self care can be mutually beneficial! Make it happen. Every day make a fresh commitment to look after you first, without the guilt. Once you get into the habit of recognising the symptoms of needing that time, and you start to enjoy the benefits of being YOU again, you’ll start to prioritise it. See it as maintenance in helping you to continue giving to others. A better happier you rebounds to everyone else in your life. Did you enjoy this article? Why not join the Two Women Chatting mailing list for regular updates.

Marine collagen can help reduce all the signs of ageing, which is very helpful for midlife and menopause. Here's everything you need to know about it. Collagen has become quite the buzzword in both the health and beauty industries with many advocating for its benefits. Marine collagen comes from fish – primarily their skin and scales – and it is lauded for its high bioavailability and ability to help our bodies withstand the signs of ageing. As such, it has become a popular choice as a supplement for people in midlife and women going through peri-menopause. But just what is all the hype with collagen? Can it really help with the challenges of this stage of life? Read on to get some honest answers. What is collagen? Collagen is a protein that is extremely abundant in the human body (and the bodies of many other animals). It provides structure to tissues and is a key component of our bones, skin, ligaments, tendons and cartilage. Our bodies synthesise collagen naturally to help keep skin firm, bones dense and joints supple, among other things. As you can imagine, its presence is very important for both our health and cosmetic considerations, but the levels of collagen in our bodies decline as we get older. The different types: There have been as many as 28 types of collagen identified, differing in the way their molecules are assembled and the role they play in the body. One common feature of all collagen fibrils is that they have at least one triple helix structure. Though there are many types, the main types of collagen are as follows: ● Type I: this is the collagen that is most abundant in marine collagen supplements, and it makes up 90% of the collagen in our bodies. Its dense structure makes it ideal for our skin, bones, ligaments and tendons. ● Type II: this collagen type is mostly found in elastic cartilage that provides support for joints. ● Type III: this is primarily located in our muscles, arteries and organs. ● Type IV: this is found in the various layers of our skin. ● Type V: helps provide structure to tissues and cells in the corneas, some layers of the skin and also the hair and even the placenta. How do I know if my collagen levels are low? Everyone’s collagen levels deplete as they age, but most people should continue to produce enough for their bodies to function correctly. However, when your collagen levels are low, you will likely find that the following signs materialise in your body: ● Wrinkles and fine lines in the skin ● Unexplained stiffness and discomfort in the joints ● Weaker bones more prone to fractures ● Slow recovery from exercise and injury ● Brittle nails ● Thin, lifeless hair ● Gastrointestinal issues With lower levels of collagen in the body, the structures it supports begin to diminish. Since the protein is so abundant in our bodies, the effects can be felt virtually everywhere. What causes collagen depletion? The main cause of lower collagen levels in our bodies is age. Collagen production begins to decrease as early as our twenties, but it is after you turn 30 that this becomes more pronounced. People often start noticing the effects of this the further they get into their thirties, and the signs become increasingly pronounced as we enter midlife and beyond. There are, however, other factors that can make collagen depletion worse. These include: ● Loss of oestrogen during menopause ● Exposure to ultraviolet (UV) light from the sun ● Poor diet choices ● Air pollution ● Stress ● Bad habits like smoking, drinking or using recreational drugs Genetics also play a role in the rate of collagen depletion, but it happens to us all eventually. What foods are high in collagen? If you are after a food that is rich in actual collagen, the go-to option is bone broth. This is made by cooking bones in water for several hours, causing collagen molecules that are abundant in the bone to be released into the liquid. However, it’s important to understand that the collagen molecules that are released have a high molecular weight, meaning it is difficult for your digestive system to absorb them into your bloodstream. Other foods that can help with collagen production include: ● Eggs: they contain the amino acids glycine and proline, which are some of the building blocks of collagen. ● Meat: collagen is most abundant in skin, cartilage, tendons and ligaments. These are not popular for eating but you will get many of the components of collagen from red meat. ● Fish: again, the collagen is mostly in parts we don’t usually eat (skin and scales) but you will get some of the amino acids from the meat. ● Spirulina: for a plant-based option, spirulina is very high in amino acids and provides some of the building blocks required to produce collagen. It can also be helpful to eat foods that contain other nutrients that facilitate good health in the cells and tissues. Vitamin C, B vitamins, calcium, antioxidants and virtually every other nutrient is required, so it’s important to get lots of variety and healthy foods in your diet to promote good collagen production. Why is it beneficial and to who? It is beneficial to try and maintain the highest possible levels of collagen in your body because it is so important for healthy function throughout your anatomy. Everyone can benefit from working to maintain their collagen, but the benefits will be felt most keenly by people in midlife and beyond. People who suffer from conditions like eczema, acne or arthritis, or those who exercise regularly or suffer from stress, may also experience improvements from boosting their collagen levels. Here’s a breakdown by age group: ● 20s: collagen can help maintain hair and nail health, reduce breakouts on the skin, prevent stretch marks, improve gut health and promote workout recovery. ● 30s: collagen may help reduce the early signs of ageing whilst providing all the benefits for people in their 20s. ● 40s: this is when collagen becomes more important. The signs of ageing can be minimised, including skin, joints and more. If you enter perimenopause during this decade, it can help with the symptoms you experience. ● 50s: collagen can help maintain bone and joint health whilst keeping the impact of ageing on your skin, hair and nails to a minimum. It may help reduce the symptoms associated with oestrogen and testosterone decline. It may also help with injury recovery, weight loss and more. ● 60+: this is when your collagen is at its lowest and you need to do all you can to maintain the best possible health in the tissues of your body. Why take a supplement? A marine collagen supplement is a very powerful way to fuel your body with the building blocks it needs to produce collagen naturally. As previously mentioned, the collagen molecules you might get into your body through bone broth are large and difficult for the body to absorb. Any other collagen building blocks you get from your diet are usually incomplete and unable to consistently deliver everything your body needs for continuous collagen synthesis. Marine collagen supplements like Kollo contain are extracted from fish, which is Type I collagen (the most abundant in our bodies). It has a very similar molecular structure to the collagen in our bodies and is highly bioavailable. This is increased by the pure collagen molecules being broken down through a process called hydrolysis. The result is smaller amino acid chains called collagen peptides (or hydrolysed collagen) which have a low molecular weight and are very easy for our bodies to absorb. When taken in the form of a daily collagen supplement, collagen peptides provide our bodies with everything they need to produce that all-important collagen. It starts fast and can be continuously produced thanks to the regularity of the dosage you get from your supplement, so you will get maximum benefit from increased collagen levels in your body. How much and how often? Different physical benefits of collagen supplements come from different dosages taken regularly. A good benchmark is to consistently take 10 grams of high grade marine collagen, every single day. This covers a broad spectrum of bodily requirements to reap the benefits for your skin, joints, bones, hair, nails, gut and more. Are there any negative side effects? There are not really any significant side effects associated with collagen supplements. It’s important to note that marine collagen comes from fish, so if you have a known allergy to seafood or crustaceans then it might be better to try a different form of collagen-like bovine or porcine. A few studies have found that a tiny minority of people report a bad taste in the mouth after taking marine collagen, while fewer still have reported minor digestive upset and bloating. But they are far from the norm – collagen is far more likely to improve digestion than disrupt it. How do I know if it is working? You should be able to see and feel the benefits when they come into play. It usually takes at least two months to start experiencing the benefits (longer for improvements to bone density) so be persistent and patient. You should begin to notice some benefits to your skin, nails and your energy levels after the first two months, and more benefits for your joints after a few more months. When is the right time to start taking marine collagen? As collagen levels can begin to decline in your twenties, you can start taking collagen supplements as early as you like. We have already listed some of the benefits you may experience from starting early, but you are likely to experience the most benefits from midlife onwards. This applies to both men and women, but its benefits in midlife might be felt most potently by women going through menopause. Middle age is when a number of issues associated with collagen depletion become more pronounced. This can start in your forties or fifties, and will include things like: ● Fine lines and wrinkles ● Sagging skin ● Thinning hair ● Brittle nails ● Discomfort in joints ● Loss of bone density When women enter menopause, the loss of collagen can accelerate quite drastically. In fact, women in the first 5 years of menopause may lose up to 30% of their collagen production capabilities. This is mainly due to the reduction in oestrogen, and the consequences can include accelerated signs of ageing as well as things associated specifically with menopause, such as hot flushes. Collagen supplements can help reduce the development of fine lines and wrinkles, improve skin elasticity, reduce inflammation that causes joint discomfort, promote healthy hair and nails, keep our bone density high and generally boost energy levels. Evidence indicates that women going through menopause who take collagen supplements have a less stressful experience. Similarly, those same benefits for skin, hair, bones and joints can be helpful for men as they enter middle age and beyond. If you would like to learn more about the benefits of collagen listen to Collagen to 5 K where Liz & Michelle chat with Jenni Falconer, Smooth FM breakfast show presenter, host of RunPod and founder of Kollo Health. Note: This post contains some affiliate links. This means that we may earn a small commission when you click on such links, at no additional cost to you. We only share links to products we would use ourselves and all opinions are our own. You can read thefull disclaimer here. 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Delicious plum tart recipe Ingredients 250 g plain flour 110g finely chopped walnuts 150g light brown soft sugar 170g cold unsalted butter 1 egg yolk 900g ripe plums, pitted and quartered lengthways Preparation time: 10 minutes. Cooking time: 40-50 minutes Method Preheat the oven to 200/Gas Mark 6 Combine the flour, walnuts and sugar in a large bowl Add the butter and egg yolk Mix together by hand or electric whisk until crumbly then press 180g of the mixture in an even layer into the bottom of a 24cm tart pan Arrange the plums, skin side down to form a flower pattern( begin from outside ) Sprinkle the rest of the crumble mix over the plums Bake for 40-50 minutes and then allow to cool for 10 minutes before removing from the pan serving on a flat plate and serve warm or at room temperature. Preparation time: 10 minutes. Cooking time: 40-50 minutes Serves 4 Credit: Ina Garten

Whether you call them smile lines or crows feet, the little wrinkles around our eyes are one of the first signs of ageing. And along with dark circles, drooping eyelids and dry eyes, they are all part of reaching mid-life and beyond. But what can you do about it? Consultant oculoplastic and ophthalmic surgeon Dr Elizabeth Hawkes (https://drelizabethhawkes.com) says the eyes are the first part of the face to show signs of ageing due to the unique nature of the skin around your eyes and on your eyelid. She explains: “For most parts of the body, you have skin, then a layer of fat and then muscle but around the eyelid, you lack the layer of fat so it’s just skin and muscle. “On top of this, the eyelid skin is very thin and the muscle under the eyelid skin, called the orbicularis oculi muscle, is one of the most active muscles on the face. “It controls when we blink. We blink 12 to 14 times a minute so the muscle is constantly working, under very delicate skin, which is why it starts to age first.” Dr Hawkes said eyelid skin is prone to all the usual signs of ageing, just like other skin, so you start to lose collagen and elastin. “It loses collagen and elastin, which means it loses strength and is also vulnerable to signs of ageing from the sun due to UV exposure. “On top of all that, it lacks its cushion of fat so you start to see signs of ageing such as excess folds of skin in the upper eyelid and lower lid and tissues can become very loose as well.” Does the menopause affect my eyes too? “Yes, it really does,” says Dr Hawkes. “Many people know about the common menopause symptoms, such as hot sweats, low libido and brain fog, however not many people realise that it can affect your eyes too. “The hormone changes that occur during the menopause can result in Blepharitis. This is a chronic inflammatory condition of the eyelids, secondary to an overgrowth of bacteria on the eyelashes and eyelids. 'In between eyelashes we have meibomian glands, and they are specialist glands only in eyelids, which secrete the oily layer of our tear film and lock in our tears. They are highly susceptive to hormonal changes in body and if the quality is reduced, it can lead to dry eye syndrome. “Many people actually suffer with watery eyes when their eyes are dry, as your eye’s reflex is to make more tears to lubricate the surface of the eye.” How to prevent eyes from ageing The big villain for your eyelids - UV Exposure “The number one cause of damage to our delicate eyelid skin is the sun,” says Dr Hawkes. “Lots of people don’t realise the eye area is a high risk area for small skin cancers. It’s easy to forget the eye area, especially as all the sunscreen bottles say avoid eye areas but you should be applying all around the eye in a circular motion and, particularly, the inner corner by the nose as that is a very common spot for a small basal cell carcinoma.” Use mineral based make-up in summer marks to protect your eye area “Using a mineral based make-up will help cover up the skin around your eyes and protect them even further,’ says Dr Hawkes. “And never forget your sunglasses. They are not just a fashion statement and must have UV protection. Look for UV 400 protection. It is extremely important for sunglasses (of any type) to have UV protection because UV radiation from the sun can damage the delicate skin of your eyelid, as well as the skin surrounding the eye area. It can also damage the cornea, lenses and other parts of the eye. UV exposure can also contribute to some types of cataracts, solar retinopathy and pterygium. Protecting the eyes from this is essential for eye health reasons and also to prevent premature ageing.” Do eye creams really work? “I’m definitely pro-eye cream,” says Dr Hawkes. “The skin around the eye area is unique and needs special care. You do need to be very delicate when applying it. If you are aggressive, you could actually cause puffiness. The eyeball is cushioned in fat in a bony socket and when it prolapses forward, you get eye bags. “Use light serums and light creams, which don’t clog up glands and put you at risk of milia. “Hyaluronic acid locks in moisture and that’s what I use around my eyes.” What about dark circles? “We all get dark circles under the eyes when we are tired, stressed or ill. The skin is so thin so the blood vessels are more visible. They are really useful tools to predict your general health,” says Dr Hawkes. “Volume loss in the tear trough area can also cause extra shadowing. “A quick tip in the morning is to splash eyelids with cold water or add an ice cube as this will help with constricting the blood vessels.” Your diet can affect your eye health too “Omega 3 is very good for your eyes and very important in your diet,” says Dr Hawkes. “Also Lutein & Zeaxanthin supplements, which delay the onset of macular degeneration. These aren’t found in your diet and need to be taken as a supplement. “Vitamin C is also beneficial for your eyes as well as your whole body. I recommend following a Mediterranean diet, with virgin olive oil, no processed food, fresh fruit and vegetables and lots of fish.” Take screen breaks “It’s really important to remember to take screen breaks for your eye health as you tend not to blink as much, which can cause dry eyes and fasten the ageing process. With each blink, you sweep tears across the eyes and it keeps them healthy. So I always recommend the 20-20-20 rule so that every 20 minutes you look out of the window at something 20 metres away for 20 seconds.” What treatments are there for my eyes? Botox “Botox - or anti-wrinkles injections - are a sure-fire way to reduce the wrinkles around your eyes,” says Dr Hawkes. “‘Botulinum Toxin temporarily paralyses the muscles that make you squint which in turn causes your wrinkles and fine lines to relax and soften in appearance. Anti-wrinkle injections are effective and results can be seen just a few days after the treatment.” Tear trough (under eye) fillers? One of the most effective treatments to combat tired-looking or aged eyes is to use tear trough fillers, says Dr Hawkes “They are a hyaluronic acid-based injectable used to reduce dark circles, eye bags and a tired looking appearance. With minimal to no downtime, they are an effective treatment to combat tired-looking or aged eyes. “The natural ageing process and various lifestyle aspects can contribute to an aged appearance around the eyes. But, careful administration of fillers under the eyes helps replace lost volume, conceal dark circles and smooth the skin. This results in a more youthful appearance overall. “After tear trough fillers, patients feel an increased sense of confidence in their appearance - no longer worrying that they 'look tired all the time'.” Blepharoplasty “If you’re still worried about your eyes and feel you need more help, you can consider blepharoplasty. Blepharoplasty surgery is performed to improve the appearance of the eyelids by remodeling their structure,” says Dr Hawkes. “This can involve complex combinations of skin removal, muscle tightening, and fat repositioning or removal. Every eyelid is unique, meaning the surgical plan and procedure is a highly bespoke process. “Surgery can be performed under local anaesthetic, or with ‘twilight’ general anaesthesia. Depending on the number of eyelids requiring surgery, the procedural time varies from 45 minutes to 2 hours. “The benefit of blepharoplasty is that we can achieve a beautiful and very natural look. This isn’t facelift surgery - you won’t come out looking like an entirely different version of yourself - but you will look a lot brighter, less tired, and refreshed. “Normal recovery is two weeks, however, I would advise having this done six weeks before spending extended periods in the sun or a big event.” This article is a promotional advertorial by Dr Elizabeth Hawkes. Dr Elizabeth Hawkes, MBBS, BSc, FRCOphth, is a Consultant Ophthalmic Surgeon, Oculoplastic Surgeon & Aesthetic Practitioner specialising in blepharoplasty, eye surgery &advanced facial aesthetics. 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Did you know citrus fruit has lots of health benefits for midlife women? Lemons are a popular fruit known for their tangy taste and refreshing scent. However, did you know that keeping a lemon next to your bed can have a range of health benefits? Here are just a few ways that lemons can improve your well-being. As women enter midlife, they may find themselves facing a range of health challenges. Hormonal changes, stress, and lifestyle factors can all contribute to a decline in health and well-being. However, one simple way that midlife women can improve their health is by incorporating lemons into their diet. Vitamin-rich lemons (vitamins A, C and E) also contain a variety of minerals, including chromium, magnesium, iron, copper, and potassium. Not just for your gin and tonic! Lemons are also known for their calming properties. The scent of lemons has been shown to have a soothing effect on the mind and body, helping to reduce stress levels and promote relaxation. Why keep a lemon next to your bed? Lemons are known for their natural air-purifying properties. They contain citric acid, which can help to neutralize odors and kill bacteria in the air. Placing a cut lemon (some people salt it too) next to your bed can help to freshen up the air in your bedroom, making it a more pleasant and healthy environment to sleep in. Keeping a lemon next to your bed can help to create a calming atmosphere in your bedroom, which can be particularly helpful if you struggle with anxiety or insomnia. In addition to their calming properties, lemons are also a great source of vitamin C. Vitamin C is an essential nutrient that plays a key role in supporting the immune system. Breathing in the scent of the fruit, can help to boost your immune system whilst incorporating it into your diet can help improve skin health by boosting collagen production, can reduce arthritis pain and has anti-inflammatory properties. Lemons are also rich in antioxidants. Antioxidants are compounds that help to protect the body from harmful free radicals, which can lead to cellular damage and disease. By consuming foods that are high in antioxidants, such as lemons, midlife women can help to protect their bodies from the effects of ageing. Please visit our resources page which has a collection of useful links from 3rd party websites and content. Did you enjoy this article? Why not join the Two Women Chatting mailing list for regular updates. Note: This post contains some affiliate links. This means that we may earn a small commission when you click on such links, at no additional cost to you. We only share links to products we would use ourselves and all opinions are our own. You can read the full disclaimer here.

Midlife is a time of change for women, both physically and mentally. Many women find themselves struggling with fluctuating hormones, increased stress, and difficulty sleeping. Fortunately, taking a nap can be an effective way to combat some of these issues and improve overall health and well-being. The benefit of napping One of the primary benefits of napping for midlife women is that it can help reduce stress levels. As women age, they often face increased responsibilities at work and home, which can lead to feelings of overwhelm and anxiety. Taking a nap can help lower cortisol levels, which is the hormone associated with stress, and provide a much-needed break from the demands of daily life. In addition to reducing stress, napping can also help improve cognitive function. As women age, they may experience memory loss or difficulty concentrating. Studies have shown that taking a nap can help improve both of these issues by allowing the brain to rest and recharge. Even a short nap of 20-30 minutes can be beneficial in improving cognitive function. Napping can also be helpful for midlife women who struggle with sleep disturbances. Hormonal changes can make it difficult to fall and stay asleep, leading to daytime fatigue and irritability. Taking a nap during the day can help make up for lost sleep and improve overall energy levels. Don't underestimate the power of a snooze! Please visit our resources page which has a collection of useful links from 3rd party websites and content. Did you enjoy this article? Why not join the Two Women Chatting mailing list for regular updates.

Like so many I learned what I know about gardening from my parents. I have vivid memories of Sunday afternoons, my father mowing the lawn, my mother hoeing and my sister deadheading the roses whilst I being the smallest was sent to weed the fruit cages frequently exiting with scratched arms and the occasional wasp sting. But it was worth it as my reward was first dibs on the delicious fruits when they were ready to pick. It is a memory I cherish and as I have grown older appreciate that time spent together as a family. But is all the information handed down actually true? I was recently plant shopping with a friend and she was looking at pampas grasses and I joked that I’d heard pampas in a front garden is a sign that the homeowners are swingers. It’s not true, but it made me think about what other myths and misconceptions have been handed down through the generations. So here are a few I have gleaned over the years, some true and some just gardening myths: Baking soda helps sweeten tomatoes TRUE-a small amount helps lower the acid levels in the soil, which makes tomatoes sweeter. You can change a hydrangea's colour by altering the pH level of the soil TRUE - the more alkaline the soil, the pinker the flowers will be and the more acidic the soil, the bluer your flowers will be. White hydrangeas will not change colour, but most other colours will. Don’t plant a new rose where an old one has died TRUE -‘replant’ disease is recognised but not well understood. It occurs when a plant is replaced with the same type and roses in particular struggle to thrive. Prune wisteria to 2 buds in February and 7 in July TRUE – 2 and 7 relate to the 2nd and 7th months of the year. You need to put green tomatoes in the sun to ripen FALSE - the best place to ripen tomatoes is in a cool dark room. Wrap them individually in newspaper as this will help contain the ethylene gas that is given off by the tomato and accelerate ripening. A copper nail in the trunk of a tree will kill it TRUE and FALSE -it depends on the number of nails! Don’t water plants in the sun or the leaves will burn FALSE - it is fine to water plants in full sunlight although it is best to water in the morning or evening as it minimises the amount of evaporation. Many plants wilt in the hot sun as a defence mechanism, giving the impression that soil is dry when it might not be. A brown lawn is dead FALSE - not all brown grass is dead and it’s more likely to be in a dormant state and the only way to find out is to water it and wait and see. Full Shade means no sun FALSE- full shade is defined as less than four hours of direct sun per day so it is not total shade. We would love to hear what other myths are out there and if anyone has contrary information on these facts please let me know. Please visit our resources page which has a collection of useful links from 3rd party websites and content. Did you enjoy this article? Why not join the Two Women Chatting mailing list for regular updates.

How much? My words when earlier this year I went to pay for a small bunch of coriander at a supermarket. Then later that week after purchasing just a few plants from the garden centre I was motivated to rethink my garden. Why not use herbs as ornamental features? I’ve always grown herbs but never thought to use them in garden design or to fill those bothersome spaces that seem to appear every year. Combining herbs with flowers or other plants can give you the best of both worlds. There are so many herbs of different heights, colours, aromas; and very often graced with attractive flowers and foliage. They can be planted on their own or mixed into borders and easily swapped to suit the conditions of your garden and the erratic British weather. It is however important to position them correctly as a few grow very tall, some prefer light shade to sun and others require protection in the winter and many can be invasive. Here are just a few that I have successfully planted for ornamental purposes this year in my borders. · Borage: A hardy annual with delicate blue or white flowers that self-seeds easily. Grows to 2-3 ft · Chives: Clump forming with spectacular purple or white pom-pom flowers – great for low edging · Fennel: Feathery green or bronze foliage with yellow flowers and good for placing at the rear of the border - can reach 6 ft · Gold Tipped Marjoram: An attractive variety with fragrant green leaves that have a gold tip and pale pinky-white flowers in summer · Lemon Verbena: The leaves emit a lovely lemon scent and have sprays of small purple or white flowers in early Summer. Can grow to 7 ft · Pineapple Sage: The leaves of this decorative herb release a strong pineapple-like scent when you touch it and in late summer produce clusters of bright scarlet flowers · Rosemary: Pale blue flowers with dense aromatic needle-like leaves that can be used as informal hedging · Silver Posie Thyme: A good ground-cover with tiny green leaves which are daintily edged in white to give a shimmering effect and in early summer is covered in small white or purple flowers · Sweet Cicely: Hardy perennial that has fern-like leaves and umbels of white flowers followed by aniseed scented fruits which prefer some shade. Can grow to 8 ft With high food prices, and unpredictable weather herbs are a cost-effective way of replenishing garden stocks and culinary supplies. They can also be used in flower arrangements, potpourri, teas and are easily dried and stored for future use. And their fragrance and nectar attract bees and butterflies into your garden. I do wonder why I didn’t think to make use of them more before. Herbs are totally underrated! Please visit our resources page which has a collection of useful links from 3rd party websites and content and more ideas on what to do in the garden. Did you enjoy this article? Why not join the Two Women Chatting mailing list for regular updates.

Hair loss is a common concern that affects both men and women. While it is more widely associated with male-pattern baldness, hair loss in women is also a significant issue. Losing hair can be emotionally distressing and can impact self-esteem and confidence. Understanding the underlying causes of hair loss in women and exploring potential solutions, including medication and cosmetic options, can offer hope and help women regain their sense of self-assurance. Causes of Hair Loss in Women Hormonal Changes: Hormonal imbalances caused by pregnancy, menopause, or conditions like polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) can lead to hair loss. Hereditary Factors: Just like men, women can also experience hereditary hair loss, often referred to as female-pattern hair loss Medical Conditions: Certain medical conditions like thyroid disorders, autoimmune diseases, and scalp infections can contribute to hair loss Stress and Emotional Factors: High levels of stress or emotional trauma can trigger a condition called telogen effluvium, resulting in significant hair shedding Nutritional Deficiencies: Inadequate intake of essential nutrients like iron, zinc, biotin, and vitamin D can negatively affect hair health Hairstyles and Styling Habits: Frequent use of tight hairstyles like braids, ponytails, or extensions, as well as excessive heat styling, can cause hair loss through traction alopecia There are medications that can be prescribed to help treat hair loss in women so contact your doctor to ask their advice and recommendations. Cosmetic Options for Hair Loss in Women Wigs and Hairpieces: High-quality wigs and hairpieces made from natural or synthetic hair can provide a realistic and immediate solution Hair Fiber Powders: These products cling to existing hair and provide a fuller appearance, masking thinning areas Hair Transplantation: In severe cases, hair transplant procedures can be considered to transplant hair follicles from one area of the scalp to another. What is Alopecia? Alopecia is a general term for hair loss and can refer to various types of hair loss conditions. One of the most common forms is alopecia areata, an autoimmune disorder in which the body's immune system attacks hair follicles, leading to patchy hair loss. Alopecia totalis and alopecia universalis are more extensive forms of hair loss where all the scalp hair or all body hair, respectively, is lost. Hair loss can be a distressing condition, affecting both physical appearance and emotional well-being so understanding the causes, seeking professional help, and exploring the available treatments and cosmetic options can provide hope and relief. While there may not be a one-size-fits-all solution, women should know that they are not alone in their journey, as even famous figures have openly shared their experiences with hair loss and alopecia, breaking the stigma and encouraging others to embrace their natural beauty. Celebrities who have spoken out about their hair loss include Ricki Lane, Naomi Campbell, Jada Pinkett Smith, and Trinny Woodall. Remember, seeking support from healthcare professionals and embracing one's uniqueness can lead to a renewed sense of confidence and empowerment. Please visit our resources page which has a collection of useful links from 3rd party websites. Did you enjoy this article? Why not join the Two Women Chatting mailing list for regular updates.

Tips to fill the void and embrace the empty nest! The kids have just left home, officially adults and it’s a new chapter in their lives but also a new one for you. Some parents are delighted that their kids have finally flown the nest but for many, it’s a time of loneliness and sadness. This is often referred to as empty nest syndrome. For years your daily life has evolved around the kids, whether it’s cooking meals, endless washing, and tidying or ferrying them from place to place. Then suddenly your day-to-day life has changed, there is a void in your life and you feel a sense of loss and sadness. It’s okay to cry, it’s normal and the sadness will go away as you adjust to this new chapter in life. It may take a few days, a few weeks and for some longer a little longer but if you are struggling do seek professional help. But remember what life was like before children? All that time you had to yourself and your partner. This is your chance to try new things or get back to doing the things you love. Yes, shed a tear or two but then move on and embrace the empty nest and the freedom. They will be back, whether, for weekends, holidays or even full time. Be prepared for this transition in your life It makes it so much easier if you are ready for this change in your life. Take a listen to the TWC podcast and check out our resources on empty nesting. Plan ahead, especially for the first days. If you are dropping your child at university- stock up on extra strong tissues, pack your oversized sunglasses even if not’s sunny and try to keep your emotions in check. Your son or daughter will really appreciate it if you don’t cry in front of their new roommates- just hold it until you get back to the car. Line up TV shows to binge watch and plan dinner with friends or a trip to the theatre. Perhaps hold off booking a holiday immediately after they leave, just in case they need you those first few weeks. Plan a casual supper or dinner party Invite friends around to chat and discuss plans and thoughts on this next chapter of your life. It’s a great way to focus on the future and set some long-term goals and an ideal time to expand your culinary and baking skills. Refresh your wardrobe and your look Do some research and find a new hairdresser and ask them what they think of your hairstyle - be brave, you’ll be amazed what a new style can do for your confidence and image. Ask your friends what they think of your clothes and style – insist they are honest! (surely that’s what friends are for?). Hire a personal stylist, they are not just for the rich and famous who will help you edit your wardrobe and find items that complement your existing clothes. Book a holiday or two and start planning for more Without the kids around you can take advantage of quieter and cheaper travel times. Start planning trips to places you’ve always wanted to visit and actually book them. It is so easy to say yes we’ll do it but then life gets in the way – no excuses now the kids have gone and you do have the time. Whether it’s short trips or more lengthy ones there are so many fascinating and beautiful places out there. Plan day trips and weekends away. Visit art galleries and museums, lifestyle exhibitions, concerts, historic gardens or classic car shows. It’s a good way to add structure to your days if you don’t work and it’s always nice to have something to look forward to whether you go on your own or with friends or your partner. Think about house sitting or pet sitting, house swapping, booking a festival, rent a motor home -the options are endless. We have lots of suggestions and ideas for unusual holidays on TWC resources page for both couples and solo travellers. Consider volunteering There are so many opportunities to volunteer - do think out of the box when it comes to volunteering. From local opportunities such as reading with young children to further afield such as conservation work in Tanzania to building a bridge in Cambodia. Reconnect and do more with your partner You may like many, have focused on your children rather than your partner over the years so now is the time to reconnect and remember why you fell in love. Plan date nights to chat about the future and discuss any concerns you might have. If you are a single parent it is especially important to think about how you would like the coming years to evolve. Make time for yourself (no you didn’t misread this!) You may find it hard to begin but now’s your chance to enjoy some serious ‘me time'. Read a book or magazine, indulge in relaxing baths, go to the movies (if you can go to the matinee performance all the better – it’s a whole new experience and often less expensive). If you haven’t discovered podcasts now is the time. There are thousands out there – why not start with TWC’s first series. If you are unsure how to listen to a podcast read the blog How to listen to a podcast. Have a thorough clear-out and declutter of your home It’s amazing how satisfying it can be to clear out clothes and items you have not seen let alone used for years and you can donate any unwanted items to charity or make a bit of extra cash and sell them on sites such as Vinted, eBay and Amazon Marketplace. Or try a car boot or garage sale they are super fun and a great way to meet new people- just don’t buy more stuff than you sell! Take up a new hobby or activity With the kids gone you have more time to explore or rekindle hobbies and sports. Learn a new skill (or just try and master something you’ve been meaning to for years like how to text with your thumbs!). Whether it’s learning a new language, mastering those filters on your smartphone or learning to cook a Thai curry. There are numerous online courses and one site we at TWC discovered recently is BBC Maestro which offers courses by experts and celebrities including Heston Blumenthal on ingenious cooking at home and Gary Barlow on song writing. Turn your hobby into a business This is really where you can find your sense of purpose after the kids leave home. If you have excellent writing skills consider guest blogging, writing a book or TV script, accomplished creatives start selling your designs and products at fairs or online, animal lovers become a dog walker or sitter and if you enjoy completing surveys and research you can get paid to do them online. The options are endless. Upskill or change career Now could be the time to totally change careers and study law, teaching, oenology or train to be a marriage registrar . You don’t have to physically attend some courses anymore although it is a great way to meet new people. Take a look at Rest Less or Life Redefined for some inspiration on a career change or push for that promotion now that you can commit more energy and time. Join a club or community committee Committees and clubs are a perfect way to meet new people – some you can dip in and out of whilst others require more time and commitment. Think about your health and your future Becoming an empty nester often coincides with the menopause. It can be a time of rollercoaster emotions and anxiety but there is a lot of support out there so don’t struggle on your own. Take a little time to think about yourself, how you feel and what are your long term goals and objectives. Connect with friends and family It’s so easy to neglect friendships and extended family when raising kids but this is the perfect time to reconnect with old friends over the phone on social media or in person. Be proactive and plan a reunion, you’ll be amazed how so many people say ‘YES I was thinking we should meet!'. And finally …. Remember just because your children have left home does not mean they don’t need you - they still require your support and love, just in a different way. They will be home for a day, a weekend or even longer if they are college students. Revel in their visits home, hearing about their new life and friends and be so very proud of the job you have done as a parent. Embrace the empty nest ....... Take a listen to our chat with Louise Minchin, Empty Nest Syndrome & Being Fearless in Midlife and other episodes on this topic: Empty Nest: Before they go' and 'When they've gone'. Louise's Book Fearless Adventures with Extraordinary Women is out now. Visit our resources page which has a collection of useful links from 3rd party websites and content and more tips for empty nesters. Did you enjoy this article? Why not join the Two Women Chatting mailing list for regular updates. Note: This post contains some affiliate links. This means that we may earn a small commission when you click on such links, at no additional cost to you. We only share links to products we would use ourselves and all opinions are our own. You can read the full disclaimer here.

As we women enter midlife, various changes occur throughout our bodies, including the eyes. The ageing process can impact vision, leading to several issues that deserve attention and care. Understanding the transformations that take place and adopting appropriate measures can help maintain healthy eyesight and improve our overall well-being during this significant stage of life. Changes in the eyes as we age and the causes As we age, our eyes undergo various physiological changes- Presbyopia - The most common age-related vision change, presbyopia, affects the eye's ability to focus on nearby objects. This is caused by a hardening of the lens and a weakening of the muscles responsible for focusing. Reduced Tear Production - Tear production tends to decrease with age, leading to dry eyes. This condition can cause discomfort, irritation, and blurry vision. Cataracts - Cataracts occur when the lens becomes cloudy, leading to blurred or dulled vision. Age is a significant risk factor for cataracts. Glaucoma - Glaucoma is a group of eye conditions that damage the optic nerve, often associated with increased pressure within the eye. It can lead to loss of vision if left untreated. Macular Degeneration - The macula, responsible for central vision, may deteriorate with age, leading to macular degeneration and potential vision loss. How does menopause affect women's eyes? Menopause, the natural cessation of menstruation, typically occurs between the ages of 45 and 55. During this time, hormonal fluctuations can influence eye health. Some women may experience dry eyes and discomfort due to reduced tear production, making the symptoms of dry eye syndrome more pronounced. Hormonal changes can also affect the stability of the tear film, leading to fluctuations in vision quality. Additionally, estrogen plays a role in maintaining the health of ocular tissues, and its decline during menopause can contribute to certain eye conditions. Tired eyes make us look older Tired eyes often make a person appear older than they are. As we age, the skin around the eyes becomes thinner, and the muscles supporting the eyelids weaken. This can result in sagging eyelids and under-eye bags. Moreover, the accumulation of pigment and the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles around the eyes can further contribute to an older appearance. Preventing Eye Degeneration While some changes in the eyes are inevitable, there are steps that can be taken to slow down eye degeneration and promote eye health. Regular Eye Exams - Routine eye examinations are crucial, especially during midlife and can detect early signs of eye conditions, allowing for timely treatment. Healthy Lifestyle - A well-balanced diet rich in antioxidants, vitamins, and minerals can support eye health. Stopping smoking and protecting the eyes from harmful UV rays by wearing sunglasses are also beneficial. Hydration - Staying hydrated can help prevent or alleviate dry eyes, maintaining a healthy tear film. Computer and Screen Use - Taking regular breaks from digital devices can reduce eye strain and fatigue. Relieving and concealing tired eyes - midlife eye tips While it is important to address the underlying causes of tired eyes, certain strategies can also help alleviate the appearance of tiredness. Eye Drops - Lubricating eye drops can provide relief for dry and tired eyes. Cold Compress - Applying a cold compress can reduce puffiness and soothe tired eyes. Sleep - Getting enough quality sleep is crucial for reducing eye fatigue and promoting overall well-being. Eye Creams - Using eye creams containing ingredients like hyaluronic acid or peptides can temporarily improve the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles. Makeup Techniques - Skillful makeup application can minimize the appearance of tired eyes. Concealers, highlighting the inner corners of the eyes, and using neutral eyeshadows can make a difference. As midlife women navigate the changes that accompany ageing and menopause, prioritizing eye health is vital. Awareness of the typical age-related eye changes, the impact of menopause can have on vision and proactive measures to maintain eye health can help women enjoy clear and vibrant vision well into old age. Remember to consult with an eye care professional for personalized advice and recommendations based on individual eye health needs. Please visit our resources page which has a collection of useful links from 3rd party websites and content. You may also like this article by Dr Elizabeth Hawkes, consultant oculoplastic and ophthalmic surgeon. We only share links to products we would use ourselves and all opinions are our own. You can read the full disclaimer here. Did you enjoy this article? Why not join the Two Women Chatting mailing list for regular updates.